Tell Dave We Want to Plan Our Families

Family planning is something that we all approach differently. Most of us first encounter it in the classroom, with some compulsory ‘scare you shitless’ graphic footage of a woman giving birth aimed at terrifying ten year olds away from vaginas (their own or other people’s) for at least the next decade. Some of us have the kinds of parents who talked about orgasms from nursery school; others have parental figures who shuffled awkwardly over the ‘birds and the bees’ right up until their offspring’s wedding day, leaving an unfortunate confusion about bestiality in their wake.

It always was difficult to stop kids touching each other, and one of the most effective demonstrations of putting across the message has been doing the rounds on YouTube as a banned advert for quite some time. In the ad, a small child and his young father go to a supermarket, where the child quickly decides that he wants candy. Raging and high on the power that a toddler always has over parents in public places, he pulls stock off shelves and lies on the floor in a classic nightmare tantrum, while the father looks helplessly on. The resultant tagline implores its horrified viewers to always use a condom.

In the developed world, this message speaks volumes. Nobody wants to be the father in his early twenties, navigating the terrible twos when he should be pursuing a career and an active social life. And very often, when we’re telling teens to get their enthusiastic fingers out of their peers’ pants, we forget that simply reminding them of the day-to-day realities of raising a child could be the best way to convince them. The world over, women sacrifice their time, their bodies, and their ambitions in order to do right by children that they never planned to have. It’s an annoyance of ‘supermarket tantrum’ proportions in the western world; in the developing world, it’s often a death sentence.

The Family Planning Summit happens in London tomorrow, on the 11th of July 2012, and well-known charity Save the Children are spearheading an attempt to provide contraception to the poorest populations in the world. At a bloggers’ event we were invited to last night, one ambassador made light of the fact that stopping children being born seemed fairly counterintuitive for a charity with their name - but the fact of the matter is that most of the women who unwillingly become pregnant in developing countries are children themselves. They often die because their bodies haven't matured enough to carry a baby - and if not, then they often go on to have an endless succession of children with very little space in between pregnancies. Without the ability to plan their pregnancies or choose when they happen, they and their entire families grow up with even worse access to food, education, and life opportunities, perpetuating a vicious circle that goes on for generations.

We steer clear of the didactic stuff when we can, but getting on board with this cause is one of the great things that we can do with the Vagenda. Ahead of the summit tomorrow, feel free to sign the petition being sent to David Cameron, who will consider whether contraception is a worthwhile pursuit for aid workers in the future. The argument from Save the Children is that proper, equal access to sex education and contraception is one of the only worthwhile pursuits when considering hunger, disease, education, individual and international development, and population control. We’re inclined to agree.

So whether you’re child-free and happy forever, thanks, or a yummy mummy doing pushchair exercise classes with your adorable baby triplets, we’re pretty sure you’re on board with the idea of planning your family for real. Perhaps all the family you need is a partner and yourself; perhaps you’ll open your home to twenty foster children and seventeen cats. Perhaps that video in year six really did scare you away from any sexual contact for the rest of your life. But whatever your position in your personal life, everyone should care that 25,000 young girls under 18 are married every day - and that for girls and young women aged 15-19, pregnancy and childbirth is the the number one killer worldwide. It’s got to stop, and someone’s got to go out there with a bumper pack of johnnies and a strong determination to talk about willies. If you’re not volunteering to do that (and all power to you if you are!), the least you can do is stick your name to the cause.